We are in love, and we want to get married..

I asked a young couple
planning to tie the knot,
Why marry?

He looked at me in surprise,
then he looked at her.
Their expression almost said,
duh, isn't that obvious?

Then they both said
almost as one,
We are in love, and
we want to get married.

But just what is this love?

Isn't love a feeling
just as any other?
I am happy,
I am sad,
I am angry,
I am in love.

Do we expect to be
happy all our days,
or sad or angry for ever?

Love rises.
Love wanes.

What a folly then
to base a marriage
on something so fickle!

If being in love was
the only reason you married,
when you feel out of love
which at some stage
you surely will,
it seems only logical
to be not married,
to be divorced;
for the reason you married
is now no longer valid.

A small word said
or sometimes not said,
is enough for one to say
I've had enough,
I'm walking out.

So is there no place
for love in a marriage?

Of course there is.

But it is not just that
fuzzy, tingly feeling.
It is love in action.

Love is a choice you make.

A choice to love
your spouse
whether in love
or out of love.

Young man,
Young woman,
planning to tie the knot?
Don't ask the question,
do i love him?
do i love her?
Ask instead, if you can
choose to love him,
choose to love her.
For what he is,
for what she is,
whether you feel
in love or
out of love.

And when you tie the knot,
remember that you are
making a promise
before Almighty God,
and a promise to each other
to be companions for ever.